There is certainly a REAL reason that the bible states, "The thief (enemy) comes to STEAL, KILL, and DESTROY."(John 10:10) If the enemy can distort the way we view ourselves, then he can certainly alter the path toward our destiny (success). It's all in the way that one may view themselves that counters the progression of one reaching their destiny.
Confidence is one of those things that usher us into the grace to flow effortlessly in our gifts. It also is the thing that give us rest, having full CONFIDENCE knowing God is present throughout every step of the way.
self-con·fi·dence
noun
a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities, and judgment.
synonyms:
morale, confidence, self-assurance, assurance, assertiveness, self-reliance, self-possession, composure.
Confidence gives you the ability to trust who God created you to be. It gives us confidence to trust the process we must go through.
Here are 10 steps to a healthy self-esteem:
1. Know who you are
When you know who you are, you know where you belong, and ultimately what you can conquer. We can't leave it up to ANYONE to add definitions to who we know God has called us to be. If God gave us a vision for our lives, it's out jobs to uphold it and display it to the world.
2. Put names and faces to the things that make you happy
This allows us to enjoy life! Indulge in the beautiful things that God has created on this earth. From music, art, fashion, family, reading, etc. These are things that bring a sense of serenity to our lives. Be leery of allowing someone or something's entire existence as our main source happiness.
3. Recognize what gets you down
Know the signs or trigger words that cause you to go back in time to a particular moment where you experienced pain. Instead of the world having to experience you lash out. Heal.....take the time to recognize you need to heal so you can be able to communicate the maturity of not being easily offended. This makes you more confident to handle situations that bring you down.
4. Healthy Friendships/Relationships
This is majorly important. For a plant can't grow without the proper environment. It needs the proper eliminates present like water, weather, enriched soil to aid it in it's journey. We aren't any different we need the right people who hold the same values, and who can see you as the person God intended for us to be. Even in transitional moments, and even moments where they don't like specific decisions we've made, they focus on the WHO They need to be willing to actually not just draw from, but add to our strength. This sets us on the path to having confidence in ourselves, and the team we have around us.
On the flip side of that it's important to know that,
"EVERYBODY AIN'T YO FRIEND"
Just because you have 1,511 FaceBook friends doesn't mean they are your REAL friends. Remember, "Quality, over Quantity" Get you 2-3 good quality, firm value system friends, that's what aids in your success.
5. Don't be afraid to reach out for help
As prideful as we can be sometimes. Stress is one of the #1 reasons diseases set in. It's vert imperative that we not only cast our cares to a God who is omnipresent, but reach out to the ones God has placed in our lives here on earth.
6. Values and Beliefs
Our values and beliefs are our principles for living. These must be solidified because these will definitely be attacked internally, and externally. There are so many avenues in which we build the palette for our value systems. There are daily plots to take shots at those systems in place one being, "Social Media" Anything from social media platforms to reality television bombard our thoughts and actions that have us questioning, changing, and making adjustments to our beliefs. We have to be firm! If you don't know who you are, please believe that the world will try and tell you. Reality television is NOT REAL! We invest our times, lives, and money in a lie! The perceptions they sell us might as well me a figment in their imagination. Money should never make you trick yo life!
7. Help someone else
In essence our lives are not our own. Be a blessing to someone. You never know the immense amount of pressure others lives may be under. God sent his son to earth to die for us as an act of service. Our lives should be played out in a way where we serve the world around us.
8. Take responsibility for your decisions
It's your decision to hold onto the deep rooted issues from your past, own up to that and take responsibility for it. Though the specific situation or circumstance may have not been your fault, don't let this uproot your confidence in moving forward. You've come so far turn your pain into purpose! Use it to channel a fight to push you to the next place. You will get through this.
9. Take care of yourself
Self care is the best care. Be careful how you talk to yourself you are listening. Take some time to rejuvenate and get yourself back on track. It's so important to view our journey as an opportunity of continuous growth. When you take care of yourself you are always doing a "Self-Check"
Always evaluate the things you think about, and the things you speak about. Then remind yourself that, "Greater his he that is in me, than he that is in the world (1 John 4:4)." There's greatness living inside you!
10. Set Goals
Everyday we have the opportunity to make our dream become a reality. Don't fumble the ball during the play. God's intentions are for you to win! If you know what God's vision and purpose is for your life, or you just want to capsulize a space in time you where in, WRITE IT DOWN. The word says, "Write the vision, and make it plain! (Habakkuk 2:2). It's always impossible until it's done.
A healthy self-esteem preserves our life! It sustains us when we doubt the excellence God has called us to operate in. Make the decision today to question every thought the contradicts who God has purposed you to be. Until next time......