Why He Won't Marry You

It's most of every girls dream. To walk down the aisle in a beautiful dress, staring through a veil at the man of their dreams, waiting at the end of the aisle. We've all been there, or currently in position of waiting for the "one."

Have you ever taken the time to think about you in your current state? We get so fixated on this marriage hype that we forget to feed our inner being. The thing that makes the woman. It's the thing that is solidified, and formatted before a man is even in the picture.

There is so much to being a woman, that it's impossible to ever being completely ready for marriage, but this leads me to the question of the hour, "Why won't he marry you?"

First and foremost #1 many women say they are ready, but they really aren't. We walk around with all the baggage from past relationships, and expectations of what we desire to be next. Completely zooming past our issues, baggage, and unrealistic expectations straight to, "What he needs to do," and, "He needs to put a ring on it!"

Sometimes God sends the storm, to make the woman. Take time in between relationships to deal with you. These are moments with God that develop a moment to reboot. Becoming a great woman, wife, and mother is a process that can only be lived not taught. It's a process that one can not rush.

#2 If you don't know who you are then you won't know what you need. Knowing who you are is knowing what you need. As we grow as women our needs are always changing. So the most important thing here is being where God is calling you. Putting yourself in the path of purpose. A woman should be seeking to establish her relationship with God, and establish herself with her gifts, and purpose. This is so important how on earth can we plan to be these awesome women, and not know our purpose, our design, our intricate pieces that make us who we are? This process is one better suited to take place before meeting the one. Although it can happen during a relationship, but it can make things complicated.

Let's not make this harder than it needs to be #3 This is about us boo, not them! Let's make this journey of growth and discovery be about us, and for us. Are you mean? bossy? ungrateful? Get yourself in check. Find a non parcel party and ask them about you and your characteristics. It's best not to use your best gal pals for this exercise. Most women think they are God's heavenly gift to a man, although we are in a sense, get your head out of the clouds and do a self evaluation please. Think about this, if you're such a keeper, then why aren't you kept? I know I'll wait.......You're in between relationships right now, right?

My final thought #4 Knowing he is not ready for commitment. Let's be real the signs are clearly there before you even enter the relationship. There are a lot of people in the world who claim that they don't need anyone, they are good alone. But it's proven in God's word he didn't want us to be alone, and created for Adam a "help, " and it goes on the say one that was "suitable" for him. Say this to yourself, "We want them to be ready!" We don't eat half baked cake. We want the cake to be cooked all the way through. This is his way of saying, "I'm not the man that you need yet." Let him work on himself. I don't think we realize ALL that is takes to be a man, and we will never know. This man will be leading you, providing for you, making financial decisions for you, fathering your children, and most important leading you spiritually. This is far too important and far to hefty to be absent from our thoughts.

Why won't he marry you? Would you marry you? Facing who you are, and who you want to be is a very tough process. But I promise you, you'll be on your way to a marriage on a solid foundation. Now when you're married, well girl that's a new BLOG!! One step at a time!!LOL Until next time!! Peace, Love!!